I am well aware that feminism and a keen interest in skincare and/or beauty don’t really go well together. I’ve been thinking about this quite a lot. I consider myself fairly knowledgeable when it comes to feminism, and yes I do label myself feminist, and a part of me thinks I should know better. But here we are.
Recently, some of my favorite feminists rallied against beauty, arguing that we cannot support a woman’s right to choose, when the choice is to go along with patriarchal ideals and spend a fortune on changing her appearance to fit the mold; we can’t consider it an act of feminism and we can’t support any and every stupid decision a woman makes, even if a woman, just like a man, should have the right to do what the hell she likes with her body. I can’t exactly disagree.
Not even when they argued that putting acids on your face is a terrible, terrible idea.
They are right. In theory.
(But also, they must not know what what it’s like to put acid on your face. It is nice.)
And. This morning I was listening to a lady, who was also not wrong, arguing that we spend all this time on putting on creams and makeup when we could be thinking about our next project, and…other important things. (I’m not a fan of important things! OK?)
This is also true. We could be doing important things. Start a revolution and that.
Why is it always that which women do that is wrong? Why is it always women who have to change?
I know that there is a contradiction in this because, yes, the acids are used to change the appearance of the skin, just to use acids as a for example. But if everyone regardless of gender was interested in their best skin, it wouldn’t be a problem, would it?
And quite frankly, men seem to have too much time on their hands. It seems far more reasonable that men should change to be more like women, rather than the other way around.
If men were busy trying to find what to do about their eye bags and is an eye serum necessary, and if so which one??? they wouldn’t have time to do half of the shit they do. Maybe they wouldn’t feel the need to. Because, surely, putting on a good mask, makes you feel nice and relaxed, i.e. you’re less likely to feel the need to go out and beat somebody up.
That being said.
The whole beauty industry is a trap for women and it should not be defended.
But I still resent that it is always women who have to change, and who do change. I resent that we always have to be the strong ones, the responsible ones.
I’m just tired.